When you file for divorce, an important step is telling your children. You may want to sit down with each one individually and let them know what is going on. While it may seem like the best way to handle this on the surface, it can lead to issues.
In fact, it has been proven that telling your children together at the same time is best.
Make sure they hear the news from you
One of the main reasons you should avoid telling your children about divorce separately is because you don’t want someone to hear it from anyone else. Divorce is a huge change for children, no matter their age. It is always better if they hear the news from their parents. If you tell some of your children before the others, they may share the news. That can make one or more of the children feel less important than another.
Children will often focus on themselves and what will happen to them. You need to make sure you provide reassurance that you and their other parent love them and that the divorce is not their fault. You also need to share information about what will change and what will stay the same. By talking about this together, you reassure the children that you’re all on the same page and working together — despite the divorce.
You can still plan to have individual conversations with your children. Just make sure you share the news with everyone together. After this initial discussion, talk with each child and address their questions and concerns. Make sure you don’t rush this step and listen to what they have to say.
Sharing the news of divorce
Divorce is rarely pleasant, and while it is difficult for you, it is also hard for your children. Making sure you provide reassurance and support is essential during this time. You also need to know about the legal aspect of divorce to ensure you handle the process properly.