You and your co-parent should prepare for every aspect of raising your child in two homes. One of those aspects is custody exchange days. It’s not uncommon for some co-parents to overlook transition days and then end up experiencing misunderstandings.
So, have you planned for custody exchange days?
Have you chosen a consistent day and time?
You should have a consistent day for exchange. The day to choose will depend on your custody schedule. Additionally, agree on the time for the exchange.
A consistent day and time can save you from conflicts, as you will know when to start preparing. Besides, it can help your child to be more psychologically prepared for transitions.
Do you have an exchange location?
Choose an exchange location beforehand. You can drop -off or pick-up your child at each other’s houses or a neutral location, such as the mall. It’s vital to be at the chosen location at the agreed time, as delays can lead to misunderstandings.
You should also consider exchanges that occur on school days. Will your child go to school from one home and then the other parent will pick them up after school? Or will they ride the bus to the other parent’s house?
Do you have a checklist of items?
It can be stressful for your child to lack what they need because they forgot it in the other home. Therefore, consider having a checklist to confirm your child has packed everything they need. Your list should include clothes, hygiene items, school supplies, supplies for after-school activities, medications, and your child’s comfort items like a special blanket or toy.
You should be well prepared for custody exchange days. Obtain more information to ensure your child always transitions between the two homes smoothly.